It’s not about the money - it’s about the priority
How many times have you felt the pull toward something deeply nourishing - a retreat, a self-care course, a healing session - and then immediately said, I can’t afford it?
Not, I don’t want it. Not, This isn’t aligned.
Here’s the truth:
When we say we can’t afford something, it’s rarely about the amount. It’s about what we’re willing - or unwilling - to prioritize.
The cost vs. the value
You’ve likely seen it. Someone says no to a $30 yoga class but books a $200 hair appointment without hesitation. They might proudly share they would never spend that much on coaching or a women's circle while carrying a designer purse.
This isn’t judgment. I’ve done it, too.
But it does invite reflection. When we choose things that beautify or serve us externally, but consistently say no to things that tend to the internal, we have to ask:
What are we really valuing?
In studies on money scripts (the unconscious beliefs we develop about money), Klontz and Britt (2011) found that people who held on to negative money beliefs like I don’t deserve money or there will never be enough were more likely to avoid investing in themselves and experience chronic financial stress.
But it goes deeper when you look through a feminine lens.
Why women - and mothers especially - struggle to invest in themselves
The modern woman has inherited centuries of messaging that says her worth is in how much she gives, not how deeply she’s rooted.
We’re praised for being selfless. Quiet. Efficient. Accommodating.
And when we become mothers, this is amplified:
Good moms sacrifice. Great moms don’t ask for anything.
So of course, when it comes time to invest in something that supports your inner world - your nervous system, intuition, creativity, or healing - there’s resistance.
Not because it isn’t needed. But because it challenges the unconscious belief that you must earn rest, peace, or presence.
Women’s money blocks are rarely about dollars. They’re about deserving.
That’s why buying groceries for your kids might feel fine, but a program that helps you reconnect with yourself? Suddenly, that feels luxurious.
This isn’t your fault. It’s an imprint.
But it can be rewritten.
Money and feminine energy: reclaiming sovereignty
Feminine energy - unlike the linear, hustle-centric masculine - is cyclical, receptive, intuitive. It’s not about earning your worth. It’s about embodying it.
When we constantly override this with logic, productivity, and self-denial, our money habits follow suit. We become disconnected from the energetic flow of money - how it moves in and out, how it responds to intention and value.
To reclaim your financial sovereignty is not just to budget better - it’s to heal.
To remember that the energy you give away to everyone else… is also meant to nourish you.
That’s what true wealth is.
Being rooted in your own enoughness.
Click here to read Part 2: "It's just how I was raised" of The worth of a woman.
In the next article, explore:
- Journal prompts to surface inherited money stories
- Book recommendations for expanding your money mindset
- How to spot when fear is masquerading as “logic”
- And why investing in yourself personally is often the gateway to every other area of abundance